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Healing the Wound of ‘Not Enough’

By Julie Ann Cairns | Abundance

Apr 14

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about beliefs, especially beliefs that hold people back from creating freedom, choice and abundance in their lives. I wrote a book on this topic actually, published by Hay House, called “The Abundance Code: How to Bust the 7 Money Myths for a Rich Life Now”

You can check it out here:

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In the book I talk about the 7 core beliefs about money that most people have lurking in their subconscious minds which prevent them from living the life of their dreams.

In some ways we can view these faulty beliefs like wounds in our psyche that are calling out to be healed.

Of all the 7 Money Myths (and I call them myths because even though many people believe them, they aren’t really true)… the central limiting belief is the belief in Scarcity. The belief that there’s not enough to go around. It’s this belief that causes us to act from a place of FEAR, and actually blocks us from allowing true abundance to flow into our lives.

These ideas will not be new to you if you’ve seen The Abundance Code film or if you’ve been reading my blog posts.

What you might not realize yet, is that sitting under that Scarcity belief of “there is not enough” is usually another, deeper belief… the belief that “I am not enough.”

This is one of the deepest wounds of them all.

If we believe that we are “not enough” just the way that we are, then we will constantly be trying to fill that hole, or compensate for that sense of inadequacy. Maybe with material things. Maybe with achievements. Maybe by pleasing others… there are lots of ways we do this, all of which are doomed to failure. BECAUSE unless we heal that fundamental wound, no matter what strategies we use to compensate for it, they will never be enough. The belief in “not enough” just begets more not enough-ness.

Here are some of the ways this deep emotional wound can show up for you:

  •        You feel like no matter what you do, it’s never quite good enough…
  •        You’re on a constant treadmill of working or striving to improve yourself, without stopping to smell the roses…
  •        You bend over backwards to please people
  •        You give and give, but find it hard to receive
  •        You feel less than OK about your body, or find it hard to accept the way you look
  •        You say sorry a lot… or conversely, maybe you feel irritable a lot of the time
  •        You get some relief from these feelings by shopping, or drinking, eating, working, watching TV, sleeping or maybe even exercising… but the relief doesn’t last

Personally I’m realizing how important it is to heal the wound of “I am not enough.” I’m also realizing that for many people (myself included) the wound opened up very early in life… probably when I was still a baby or a young toddler.

Here’s how I’m bringing my attention to a process of allowing this deep wound to be healed: I’ve started visualizing myself as a baby, being held by an incredibly loving and gentle motherly figure. She’s looking deep into my eyes, cooing and telling me that I am beautiful just the way I am, and oh so loved. She’s rocking me gently in her arms, and unconditional love pours out from her eyes into mine.  

(You could visualize this person as your own mother…but if that doesn’t feel congruent for you then maybe visualize a loving female role model, earth mother, or even a goddess-like figure.)

I spend a few minutes at a time visualizing this and, most importantly, FEELING that unconditional motherly love pouring into me. I feel that this practice is helping me to heal that deep inner wound, and I know that this will serve to open me up to new levels of abundance in my life.

Let me know in the comments if this post has helped you!

To YOUR Abundance

Julie Ann Cairns

 

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